A Ritual (photos by Natasha Gornik)

(TW Blood)

When I facilitate a ritual BDSM journey for an individual I don’t always know what someone is working with. Oftentimes people will choose to keep the specifics to themselves, and only occasionally share with me after. I work with energy, so specifics aren’t necessary to do the work.

Here are her words:

Transformation is not only creation, but death. As part of my own transformation, Mistress Blunt guided me on a burial/birth ritual that would memorialize that which had served me so that I could make space for the person I wanted to become. To be buried in the totems of my old self required a reckoning and a coming to peace; an emotional journey played out on the body. Stapled and pinned to my flesh, my old self literally bound me. We said goodbye in the most beautiful way we could with flowers and jewels; the corpse that is even more breathtaking than it’s living memory. When Mistress Blunt cut me open, I felt my body breathe for the first time. Our energy transformed the moment it started to flow, and the blood charged us both. Painted in my blood, I could both say goodbye to that which needed to leave and at last appreciate the powerful life force that’s been inside of me all along. In the bath, swaddled in lace and held firmly in Mistress Blunt’s arms, I was reborn, emerging afterwards with the spirit of someone who has just gone to battle and the scars to prove it. 
Deft, creative, and intuitive, Mistress Blunt was a true medium. She understood how to simultaneously give me the support I needed to feel safe while giving me the space I needed to go on my own journey. Deeply attentive to my body and my signals, she always had a sense for where I was, even without verbal communication. While the scars have now mostly faded, this session left its imprint beneath the skin, and is something I will carry with me always. 

A Whipsmart Guide to Finding The Perfect Domme

A Whip-Smart Guide to Finding Your Perfect Domme in NYC

I was interviewed for Hustler’s Magazine this week about finding the perfect Dominatrix for you. You can read more of the interview here!

“Don’t be a little bitch about being a little bitch.” – Mistress Blunt, NYC Femdom Dominatrix

Because choosing the right person to cede control to takes a lot of self-determination.

Mired in self-doubt over the prospect of booking your first Domme? Don’t be. Chin up and eyes forward, slave—we’re going to teach you how to make all your sub fantasies come true, minus the anxiety of not knowing where to start.

Your guide for this voyage is a dominatrix who has dedicated two decades of her life to perfecting the fine art of kink. Mistress Blunt (pictured) is a professional, schooled at an “old guard” upstate New York training chateau where she studied power dynamics and BDSM before settling in Brooklyn, where she offers professional sessions to a very select clientele.

Strap yourself in; this is going to get very real, very fast.

HUSTLERMagazine.comIt can be daunting to articulate one’s kink and what one needs in order to be fulfilled. Some people must freeze in their tracks when it comes time to look for a Domme. What should that first step be?

Mistress Blunt: Of course it is intimidating! If you are contacting a pro Domme, it is probably something that you’ve been thinking about for a while. It’s a fantasy that you’ve been building up, and you are so close to it becoming reality. Making steps towards manifesting your desires can be a challenge, and learning how to ask for what you want can be just as difficult as actually receiving it. That being said, most experienced pro Dommes have a substantial web presence. The internet gives us the space to really lay out what we are looking for in a client or a submissive, to share our specific interests, and to call in the kinds of sessions that we truly enjoy.

Obviously it’s not a one-size-fits all situation when matching subs and Dommes… I’m into X, but this Domme specializes in Y, etc… how do we begin to match desires with a Domme’s skill set / specialty? Is it as simple as reviewing the info on a Domme’s Twitter profile or website?

They call me Blunt for a reason. My answer again is to do your research! My website states explicitly what activities I enjoy, what I want more of in my sessions, and what I do not like doing at all. I’ve laid it all out for anyone who might be interested to assess the fit. Sex worker twitter is amazing. Many of us share even more content behind paywalls. Follow us, pay us for our content. Read our websites. Look at our pictures. Do we share pictures of the activities you are interested in? It’s like assessing attraction and shared interest in any other situation. What Dommes are you finding that make you feel excited? What do you find to be a turn off? Being in touch with your desires, your body, and your intuition will help you decide who will be a good fit for you. It is not a one-size fit all situation, so avoid sending out a copy and paste email. It’s also important to not set your expectations too high. You are on a journey and building chemistry is a process. Even a mediocre session can teach you a lot about yourself and your desires if you are open to it. If you don’t get discouraged it could even bring you closer to finding the perfect fit for you.

This next question is about perception. Is it possible that some men (or women) find a Domme that they like and might be a good fit for them… but because Dommes are “scary” (I’m just setting up a hypothetical situation here) they don’t reach out to learn more; maybe because they’re scared of looking dumb? Which is crazy because we all have to start somewhere… what would you say to someone like this, who was feeling apprehensive about making first contact?

I’ve definitely had people who follow me on social media for a year or two before reaching out. Sometimes that’s what you need to do to feel comfortable! If you’re a novice and wanting to enter a new community, going slowly doesn’t hurt. But there is no need to be scared. If you are doing your research, sending thoughtful, concise replies (with $$ attached never hurts) you are more than likely to get a reply with more information and be one step closer to setting up a session and getting to explore your desires in real life! Make sure you are reaching out to your potential Domme how they want to be reached out to! AKA most likely NOT by sliding into their DMs. Dommes receive a lot of contact, most of mine goes to an automated folder that I don’t see unless you very explicitly follow my instruction. It saves both of us a lot of time. If you aren’t going to follow my instructions for an initial contact, I doubt you would be respectful of my other boundaries in real life! 

Now, let’s say I’ve done my research – went to your site, learned about your rates and services, got a feel for who you are… but I still have questions. How do I get more information without annoying you or wasting your time?

Yay! You’ve done your research, good pet. Now it is time to fill out my contact form. If you still have more questions after an initial exchange of emails, let the provider know. It is totally normal to have questions before a new experience. I’d say ¾ of the time people have questions for me after “doing their research”, I can direct them to a page on my website that answers their question. So, first, make sure you’ve actually done your research. Then, if you still have more questions ask the provider if you could schedule a time for a consultation phone call and what their rate or preferred method of consultation is. I don’t exchange more than 1-2 emails with an individual without a consultation fee or receiving a deposit. I only want to play with people who respect my time, so this boundary helps to ensure that happens. Booking a phone consultation is an excellent way to respect a provider’s time and ask questions to alleviate any anxiety you may be feeling.

I understand that what I’m about to ask is baseless, but it exists and I’d like to get your take… like any field, be it carpentry, insurance, education – whatever – there are good people and there are bad people. As a prospective client seeking a Domme, do I need to be worried at all about someone trying to take advantage of me, using my submissiveness as a way to exploit me? I imagine these types of occurrences are few and far between, but are there any red flags I should be watching out for as I seek out a Domme?

If you yourself are a novice and seeking out your first BDSM experience, I would encourage you to book with someone who has a solid reputation in the field. Again, sex worker twitter is a great way to get a better idea of what a Domme might be like in person. Is she interacting with other members of the sex worker community? Does she talk about going to classes and learning new things? Does she teach classes? I think the best Dommes are part of a community that they can share skills with and a community that holds them accountable for their actions.

Can you walk us through some of the most common questions you get from people wanting to learn more about your services, and how you answer them?

I actually very intentionally do not list a public facing email address on my website. I have a very thorough contact form that gives me all of the information I need to facilitate a session or assess my interest in seeing someone. Some of my questions are, “What do you do for self care?”, “When was the last time you cried.” “Can you tell me a little about your kink history or interests?” I think it’s important for prospective clients to remember that Dommes are also assessing the fit of the client. If someone isn’t following my protocol, respecting my boundaries, or if they are sending me a copy and paste message, that is a red flag for me and I am less likely to see them. Because my contact form is so thorough, I don’t get a lot of questions. Everything is on my website. Once people fill out my contact form, they are usually ready to book! The novice clients that want to do a paid phone consultation with me before meeting usually just want to chat! It is a great way of assessing chemistry, talking about boundaries, and to start getting excited about play.

I have a friend who is into HEAVY medical play. And there’s really no room for error when inserting things into a person’s urethra. How can I make sure that the Domme I’m dealing with knows what they’re doing?

Sounding is so fun! Dommes have specialties and usually advertise them. If what you are looking for requires a special skill set, make sure the Domme you are seeing has those skills and tools. I am really into blood play, medical staples, and play piercings. I take classes from kinky, licensed medical professionals to learn how to do these activities safely. I think of it like continuing education courses! I’ve been a Domme for 12 years, and even though I teach classes, I still take classes and attend skill shares all the time. 

Let’s say I find the perfect Domme for me – how do I stay in her good graces? What is considered a customary tip, and does gifting play into it at all? Do you like to be gifted? What characteristics do your best clients share? 

Ah yes, staying in your Domme’s good graces. I love getting little notes with my tribute and I always appreciate a tip. I think it is important to be realistic and not over promise or overextend yourself. If you need to save up to see me twice a year, great! Just let me know. Little thoughtful gifts between sessions are sweet. With gifting, it is important to gift your Domme what SHE wants, not what YOU want to get her. I have very specific tastes, and I don’t like clutter. You might think you are being thoughtful by getting me something that is not on my wishlist, but odds are you don’t know me well enough to know my tastes better than I do! I am very generous with my energy and I appreciate when people reciprocate in meaningful ways to improve my life. Like paying my rent, maxing out my Roth IRA, or buying me a Femdom Commune upstate…. 

One of my favorite material gifts was a Rick Owens coat I wanted accompanied with a note that said, “Don’t worry, I’m not in love with you, I’m just having a midlife crisis.” So a sense of humor is for sure something I enjoy in a submissive. I wear that coat almost every day in winter and think about him. My favorite clients are open-minded, reliable, good at stating their boundaries, honest, and generous. They genuinely enjoy service and submission and are transported through their devotion to me. My favorite submissives are ones I can find chemistry with and who are loyal. BDSM is a huge part of my life and I relish the moments where I can find points of connection and energy exchange in my work.

Any parting words or wisdom about the process?

Don’t be a little bitch about being a little bitch. Do your research. Fill out the form. Click Send.

-Check out my protocol and contact form for examples.

-Daddy An Li has a great guide for novices seeking a prodomme. 

La Maison Du Rouge occasionally does dramatic readings of how NOT to contact a prodomme on their Periscope channel.

Who said Dommes don’t fuck?

Mistress Blunt NYC Kinky GFE BDSM

Who said Dommes don’t fuck? Who said that Dommes don’t enjoy sex? Who said that Dommes don’t do whatever the fuck they want? Where did this idea come from that a Domme being penetrated makes her less of a Domme? I’ve never really liked being told what to do.

In my new 34-minute video with Owen Grey, I share with you an intimate video of the sex I like to have as a Dominatrix in my personal encounters. Whether you’re submissive or not, it doesn’t really matter, because I am going to use you like a toy and I always get my way.

You’re welcome, cucks.

Buy the clip and let me know what you think!

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Blood Play

If blood isn’t your cup of tea, feel free to skip this post! I’ll be sure not to remind you that we are all full of blood. But to me, there is nothing more romantic than blood play. For many, blood is associated with cold, medical environments. For me it stems from a place of curiosity and devotion. It is a ritual sacrifice, saved only for devoted submissives and explorers.

“Flesh is like a sensate tissue that extends beyond the physical body, touching and being touched by others, touching and being touched by the material world. It encompasses the spaces between oneself and others, creating a kind of unthought, visceral knowing. Flesh evokes both the vitality and frailty of the body, a sense of the loved and living body. Flesh is a medium of contact. Flesh is skin with depth, movement and vitality. There is the capacity to excite and disturb, the desire to get under another’s skin, to get into the other in such a way that will not be forgotten. To be taken over and filled up by another, to penetrate and be penetrated in our intimate relationships.”

We grasp and shape flesh like a prayer.

To be embodied.

To be dismembered.

To become undone.

But no matter how deep we are inside another, only our flesh will ever be our own.

Savoring the touch that makes our flesh more our own.

And gratitude for being permitted entry.

Folsom 2019

Mistress Blunt Human Furniture

My sweet Australian Submissive flew me from New York to San Francisco so I could parade her around the Folsom Street Fair. We made quite the scene as I dragged her around by the hair and whipped her in the streets. The energy of all of the leather daddys, leather dykes, and perverts was incredible. It feels so amazing being surrounded by your people and being witnessed in a public scene by fellow perverts.

New York City’s Folsom East is fun, but being able to get swept up in the crowd of perversion in San Francisco for this NYC Dominatrix was fun.

The night before the big event I went to a Femme centered play party. I met up with some of my leather family and we planned an elaborate Judaism high holiday scene which involved me cutting off one of my curls to glue on to a good jewish boy’s head for his bar mitzvah. Our honorific of choice was Bubbe and Zayde. I’ll let you imagine the rest. A little bit of religious play is always fun for me. Plus, I got to work in a little foot worship, foot fetish, boot care, human furniture and objectification all before the big day.

I’ll definitely be going next year! If you want to book a public session with me, this is a good way to do it! Click here if you want to be my Folsom arm candy and book a session.

The post that got me kicked off Instagram! ^

Someone even made memes of our scene! Now, I am back in NYC getting caught up with all of my regular, devoted submissives. This NYC Domme is very content with her trip to the West Coast. I can’t wait to return. As we always end the high holidays, next year in San Francisco!

Mistress Blunt in San Francisco for Folsom

I only make it to San Francisco once a year, and this year, I made sure that I would be there for the Folsom Street Festival. The first time I went to Folsom was the first time that I had my leathers (head to toe) done at a boot blacking station. Since then, I have been incorporating more leather worship and care into all of my sessions. I am excited to go to all of SF’s best kink parties, to indulge my leather fetish to the fullest, and to hang out with some of my favorite SF prodommes.

I am accepting VERY limited professional dominatrix sessions in San Francisco September 27-29th. I already have plans to drag a submissive girl around on a leash for some public worship and torture at a lesbian bar. What other trouble will I get into?

Click here to fill out my contact form to apply for a session while I am in San Francisco.

THE BREAK UP – the relationship that inspired it all

Can you imagine what it would be like to have been in my life and to not be anymore? Are you a masochist? Do you fetishize your break up with your ex and want to hear my unique take on humiliation and degradation? These clips are my favorite because my ex-boyfriend and I eroticized our break up and I turned him into my cuckold bitch. He filmed some of these clips and was the inspiration behind a lot of them. It was a cathartic process. Maybe you’ll hear what you need to move on, or maybe, something a little more devious might happen. Only way to find out…

Pool Boy with @willhavocxxx

Last month I spent a glorious week with Madeline Marlowe and Will Havoc in Las Vegas. We filmed some super sexy femdom content while I was out there. Creating with these two was certainly a treat. Check out my clip store for the first part of my 3 part pool boy clip with Will! Our chemistry is unparalleled. Stay tuned for more Femdom clips from Mistress Blunt!

Manifestation 2019

Mistress Blunt NYC Tights + Garter

The thing about BDSM that interests me is a genuine exchange of power. Your submission is a gift. Thank you for letting me play with it. I enjoy dominating individuals who are grounded. Individuals who are submitting to me not out of a place of need but a place of desire. A desire to be seen, to be held and a desire to surrender.

BDSM can be healing, let’s explore alternative paths to embodiment

In the next year I hope to call in more sessions with people who are like me; Queer. I hope to session with people who are exploring gender in interesting and creative ways, with people who are looking to delve deeply into the body and establish new relationships with a body that they may have a complicated relationship with. BDSM is a great way to be sexual and intimate without a necessary focus on genitals. I work with a lot of folks who have trauma histories or traumatic relationships with their bodies and are interested in BDSM as a healing practice.

I am interested in training individuals in my high protocol D/s dynamics. I am interested in people who thrive in D/s dynamics and find a form of mutual support in how they support their Domme through their submission.

I am letting go of folks who push my boundaries, of people who want more from me than I am able to give, and of succubus clients where no matter how much they pay, it never feels equitable because it is so exhausting.

I am working on being firm with my boundaries and establishing more rigid check ins with the clients I have established relationships with while saving energy for personal relationships and friendships.

My favorite sessions revolve entirely around establishing firm D/s dynamics, slave training, orgasm control and weaving foot, boot, leather worship and select other fetishes into my training style.

I would love more:

  1. Extended GFE Domme Sessions
  2. Bath fetish sessions (doubles with the Goddess Aviva!)
  3. Sorority Hazing session with 2+ other Domme friends.
  4. Death Meditations, Death role plays and entheogen exploration, offering your life into the hands of a Goddess and the earth.
  5. Whips. I would love to play with more heavy masochists who love whips as much as I do.
  6. Leather body bag / mummification sessions.
  7. Gender exploration sessions.
  8. Blood play // Needle Play
  9. Ritual Work
  10. Foot fetish sessions // ass worship // face sitting sessions
  11. Working with newbies to figure out what they want and to step into their dominance or submission.
  12. Tease and Denial Sessions

Keep in mind that I keep an afternoon a week open for sliding scale 2-hr sessions for people who are not cis-men.

Dream Clients:

In order to discuss any of the following, please send a $100 Amazon gift card and a letter of inquiry.

Here are some opportunities for more personal service for slaves who are interested in contributing to my life in a meaningful capacity, but are uninterested in or not ready for traditional sessions or would like to deepen and augment our relationship outside of session.

  1. Someone interested in contributing annually to my Roth IRA. Maybe you are in the business of money and get off on ensuring your Goddess has financial security and wise investments. ($5500 annually)
  2. Generous ‘Patron’ slaves interested in socializing and funding my education in yoga and public health research ($200 to discuss)
  3. A self care slave: someone interested in contributing monthly for my self care indulgences with whom I will bestow the honor of attending a massage or yoga class with me every month and an opportunity to discuss how to improve their own self care practices. ($1500 monthly)
  4. A farmer’s market slave to take me shopping at the Union Square Farmer’s Market for farm fresh veggies, local goodies and flowers weekly or 2x. ($150-$200 per trip)
  5. A fetish slave: to have the privilege of taking me shopping for leather, cashmere, silk, boots and stockings and the privilege of watching me indulge my fetishes and hedonism. ($1000 minimum)
  6. A community service slave who texts me weekly or monthly asking what charity I would like them to donate to.  ($100 minimum)
  7. More slaves to tend to my wish lists and surprise me with gifts.
  8. Open to bartering with a furniture making submissive!
  9. Devoted, submissive masochists to the front of the line, please

Sweaty Summers in NYC

I’ve been traveling a lot the last few months, but New York City will always be my home. Through and through I am a NYC-Dominatrix. My favorite BDSM clients hail from New York City. Maybe it is something with the masochism of living and surviving in this sweaty and expensive city that makes submissives from NYC so sweet. Or maybe I am just a homebody who enjoys making people come to me. Either way, I’ve learned that even as a traveling dominatrix, I am a New York City dominatrix at heart. NYC will always be my home, and you will always be my bitch.

xxMistress Blunt