Unpacking Power Dynamics as a Financial Dominatrix: How I Approach Findom

Growing up, I didn’t want to be a doctor, a firefighter, or a ballerina. I wanted to marry rich, and divorce well, and I would tell anyone who would listen.  I could imagine nothing I wanted more than access to wealth and security. I knew that proximity to men might bring me proximity to wealth, …

Orgasm Control: 100 (Denied) Submissive Fantasies to Edge To

I like to have submissives detail their kinky fantasies and perverted thoughts while they are under my strict orgasm control. Last year, a submissive wrote 100 Things to Not Think About When Mistress Blunt Won’t Let You Cum for me. This year, I had another eager submissive record every time they thought of me while …

Orgasm Control OnlyFans: Who is the best orgasm control dominatrix on OnlyFans?

Let’s address the elephant in the room, shall we? You’re here, reading these words because we share a common interest: orgasm control. You want a powerful woman to control your orgasms, right darling? You want to edge for hours, begging a beautiful woman for release. You want someone to tease you, bring you right to …

Findomme OnlyFans: Who is the best financial dominatrix on OnlyFans? An unbiased opinion.

Since you’re here—reading this—I know a little something about you: you’re interested in findom. I know you want to explore findom as a form of power exchange. You want to be a powerful woman’s personal ATM, wallet, or paypig. You want to be useful, to serve both a findomme’s whims (like a new pair of …

BDSM & Therapy: How to Find a Kink Friendly Therapist

I like to say that BDSM can be therapeutic, but it isn’t therapy. I encourage everyone who is seeing me regularly to find community in the BDSM scene as well as a kink positive therapist. Having a kink aware therapist can be super helpful in processing and integrating what comes up during an intense BDSM …

100 Things to Not Think About When Mistress Blunt Won’t Let You Cum

I gave my submissive the task of writing down every single thing they thought about while they weren’t allowed to cum. Orgasm denial and edging can be really challenging for some submissives, especially when you have to keep a written log of every thought you definitely shouldn’t be having. (Content Warning: Very hot content ahead, …

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Self-Care in Quarantine

Forced self-care has always been an interest of mine. I’ve often found that for people who identify as masochists, having strict instructions to follow on how to take care of themselves can be helpful in starting to integrate more self care practices into their lives.  A lot can be learned about the self through externalizing …