BDSM Education

What are the best BDSM books?

These are some of the works that have informed my BDSM practice as well as a few that are still on my to do list! A lot of these materials may not be directly about BDSM, but rather about the way that power impacts all of our relationships; how people play with power and often abuse it. Some of these resources are heavy on the theory, some are incredibly erotic, and others are more informational “how to’s”.

I will continue to update this list when I have time. I hope you find it useful.

Once a month (or so) I will be picking a text or a movie and talking about it on my AVNStars account. So be sure to subscribe so we can learn together!

At the end of April, we will be discussing, “But femsub is broken too!” So start reading.

Journal Articles about BDSM

Educational Books about BDSM

  • “The Bonds of Love” Jessica Benamin [Book]
  • “The Sadeian Woman” Angela Carter [Book]
  • “Victims, Gender and Jouissance” Victoria Grace [Nonfiction]
  • “The Story of O” Anne Desclos
  • “Queer BDSM Intimacies: Critical Consent and Pushing Boundaries” Robin Bauer. 2014.
  • Sacred Kink, Lee Harrington. 2004
  • The New Topping / Bottoming Book.
  • Love Not Given Lightly: Profiles from the Edge of Sex, Tina Horn.
  • SM 101, Jay Wiseman
  • The Ultimate Guide to Bondage, Mistress Couple

BDSM Erotica and BDSM Fiction

  • “The Piano Teacher” Elfriede Jelinek [Novel]
  • “Bad Behavior” Mary Gaitskill [Short Stories]
  • “The Story of O” Anne Desclos
  • “Venus in Furs”  Ritter von Leopold Sacher-Masoch 

Movies about BDSM

  • The Night Porter (1974)
  • The Secretary (2002)
  • The Piano Teacher (2001)
  • In the Realm of the Senses (1976)
  • The Story of O (1975)
  • The Duke of Burgundy (2014)
  • Nymphomaniac I (2013)
  • Maîtresse (1976)
  • The Ceremony (2014)
  • Sebastiane (1980)
  • Belle de Jour (1967)
  • Crash (1996)
  • 9 1/2 Weeks (1986)
  • A Dangerous Method (2011)
  • Ilsa, She Wolf of the SS (1975)
  • Lies (거짓말Gojitmal) (1996)

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