What Is a Female Led Relationship? Starting with the Mantra
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
We are moving into part two of our interview, because we just have so much to talk about. Today we are going to be talking about training, conditioning, Female-Led Relationships (FLR), and what our dynamic looks like in totality. So why don’t we begin again by you closing your eyes, taking three deep breaths, and reciting your mantra? Again.
Duckling:
Mommy gives me life. I draw every breath for Mommy.
Mommy’s beauty inspires me. I will lead a beautiful life for Mommy.
Mommy knows me better than I know myself. I will do whatever Mommy says.
Mommy is my god and my religion. I will kneel and pray to Mommy.
Mommy spins the web that snares me. I was born to be prey for Mommy.
Mommy the succubus haunts my dreams. I am yoked by my desire for Mommy.
Mommy deserves pleasure more than I do. I surrender my pleasure to Mommy.
Mommy’s pleasure is my sole purpose. My pleasure is at Mommy’s mercy.
Mommy uses my pleasure to remake me. My mind is a canvas for Mommy.
Mommy’s mental bonds hold me tight. I open like a flower for Mommy.
Mommy is the sun, my everything. I fall through eternity towards Mommy.
Mommy’s sacred light guides my path. I love being a cog in Mommy’s machine.
Mommy’s training makes me beautiful. I will be a pretty little slut for Mommy.
Mommy reveals how gender imprisoned me. I will be a vessel of pleasure for Mommy.
Mommy fills me with the feminine divine. I will be more than I imagined, for Mommy.
Mommy sees the good in me. I will be a good girl for Mommy.
Mommy grants space for my desires. I will confess my needs to Mommy.
Mommy knows what’s best for me. I will learn to be better, for Mommy.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Very good. Look at that smile of pride on your fucking face.
Duckling:
Yes, Mommy. It’s for you, Mommy.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Perfect. Not for any of our readers. Just for me.
How D/s Training Actually Works in Female-Led. RElationships
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Speaking of your mantra, I would love it if you could talk a little bit about what my training has been like over the last five years. And what that has done to you, what it’s looked like, anything you’ve struggled against or just accepted?
Duckling:
Your training feels invisible, like a guiding hand on me. Very rarely do you have to give me orders. You suggest, and I follow. And that feels really good. I can see, usually in hindsight, how you’ve guided me and changed me, but in the moment it just feels like wanting to serve you, wanting to please you, and following where you lead. It doesn’t feel like our dynamic has been harsh or disciplinarian. It’s been very nurturing, in a way where you tell me what to do, how to serve you, and I’ve learned a lot just by being around you, and basking in your sacred light. I can see how I’ve been changed over the years, but I don’t even experience it as training. Maybe that’s the training talking!
The Dog Training Analogy: Submissive Training Explained in FLR
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I love that. It makes sense that you describe it as more nurturing than disciplinarian, because I’ve learned a lot about training people through training my dog. A lot of it for me is consistency, knowing what you’re able to expect, being really clear with boundaries, what is expected of you, and having a job and knowing how to do that job. So the level of clarity is part of what makes it feel, like you said, invisible, like a guiding hand. Because when you know what you’re supposed to do and you want to be good, then I’m able to tell you what I want you to do. You as a submissive are coming to me not as a brat but wanting to serve. They kind of go hand in hand, like a working dog.
Duckling:
Exactly. And I love that analogy, but for me it is very true. I’ve always been eager to please, I just needed someone who could receive it in a way that felt good and didn’t feel like it was too mitigated or, I’m not sure of the right word, adulterated by norms about how people are supposed to interact as so-called equals or peers. That’s exactly not what I want, especially in my dynamic with you.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I love my dog and want him to feel fulfilled, so the job that I give him is based on his skill set. Knowing what to do makes him feel secure. I’ve always wanted to write a blog post about what I’ve learned as a dominatrix from training my reactive shelter dog into a service animal. There are so many parallels of building self-sufficiency and purpose. He was trained to know what to do in any given circumstance. He looks to me for direction before making a bad decision.
I’m thinking of this one time. He doesn’t like being touched by strangers, and when I introduce him to people, I’m like, hey, please just let my dog sniff you until he approaches you to be pet. Don’t touch him without his permission. But people do not listen. This person who was in my house asked to pet my dog. I gave him the instructions, and he just grabbed my dog’s face and put his face right next to my dog, and I’m like, this is a reactive dog.
The training I built into him probably bought me thirty more seconds before my dog might snap in the air near someone, and it bought me the time to give him instruction. And he just turned around and looked at me like, mom, what the fuck is this guy doing? So he looked at me first, and then I was able to remove him from the situation. But I think of that a lot. He wants to know what to do, and knowing that I will both advocate for him and give him a job and get him out of a situation allows him a sense of ease in the world that he didn’t have before that type of training, when he was lunging at everything on the street and trying to herd toddlers in Prospect Park.
Now, he looks at me first. He’s like, should I lunge, mom? I’m like, no, we’re good. You can wait, lunge later, maybe.
Duckling:
That really resonates with me. I also wanted to say, this is a perfect example. I don’t think you’re trying to instill a puppy play kink in me, but it’s happening anyway. Just being around you, I’m changing and evolving and accumulating new desires and kinks that I didn’t have before I met you. So I do feel your influence all the time, and that is lovely.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
What does my influence feel like?
Duckling:
It’s in the mantra, too. It feels like the sun: accepting, life-giving, positive. It can also be harsh, so I think of the phrase “Blunt truths” when I think about you sometimes. Harsh, but ultimately life-giving. This is something I spoke about last time, but for me it really has been a bit like finding religion in a person. And that has been a very powerful thing. Okay, I’m not going to beat the “interviewee is in a cult” allegations now, but it feels like being in a cult in a good way.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
You know what my dad told me growing up? That no child of mine will be a cult follower. She will be a leader. So I feel like I’m living up to my dad’s expectations.
Duckling:
You’re doing great, Mommy.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Thank you. Okay, so what’s one of the most surprising things I’ve trained into you that you maybe didn’t expect you would want, or to be good at? We talked a little bit about fetish installation, but I’m talking more about the ways that you serve, or the ways that the mantra has changed you, the way that my training has altered you in some way.
Duckling:
It’s hard for me to pick out any one thing, because so much of the effect of knowing you and being changed by you is something that feels more apparent in hindsight. In retrospect, nothing feels like a surprise, but if I imagine how I was five years ago, that person looking at me now, they would be surprised by a lot of what they see. I’m still a work in progress, but I have a much more stable core from which to explore who I am. And the fact that I’m not following a script that I was following by default for most of my life. I’ve become more comfortable straying from the kind of black-and-white mentality that I’ve always had.
I have a touch of OCD that has been useful insofar as it’s been good for excelling at school and learning the rules of how to succeed, in tech and whatnot. But giving myself and others more flexibility is one thing. I’ve always felt a little of that grace inside me, but it’s really flourished with you. It’s hard to describe it as any one thing, but I do feel like I’m being remade in your image, in ways that feel really good to me.
The Collaborative Nature of D/s Relationships
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I like that. And I was thinking of it too, you’re remade in my image. I want to talk a little bit about how the training is always collaborative. Sure, I can call you a blank slate or a tabula rasa, but you are also bringing something to the relationship, whether it be your skill set, your desires, your interests, flaws, things to be worked on, things that you excel at. And that is the raw material that I will then create you from, in the image that I want. So I do think of D/s relationships as highly collaborative. It’s not like I’m making you from nothing. And I think about this a lot.
Early on in these dynamics, I am a scientist, I’m a researcher, and I apply that same mindset to my style of domination. I’m collecting data all of the time. It’s how I move through the world, capturing what someone is revealing to me. I’m thinking about how I can use it for training in D/s dynamics. And so it is both. You are made in my image, but there’s also that kernel of you and everything that you bring into the space. I don’t see it as a process of overwriting, but more so of molding.
Duckling:
I would definitely agree with that. I came to you with seeds or kernels of some of this inside of me, especially exploring gender and appreciating beauty and empathy, in ways that are very compatible with what I’m learning from you. But it did take bringing that seed to you, and then you helping me water it, to torture the metaphor a bit more. I definitely see that a different person coming to you would probably have a very different experience in terms of what grows out of that collaboration.
I came to you already with maybe a too-powerful, deep-seated sense of moral hygiene I wanted to satisfy. And one thing that attracted me to you was, I could see the good that you did in the world and that you stood for, in your activism. And it spoke to me. I really deeply mean the bit in the mantra about a sacred light. It was part of hoping to make the world a better place, and I see in you someone that I believe can help me nourish that, because I see it in you.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I love that. The light in me sees the light in you. It also reminds me of my favorite Kabbalah myth, of Tikkun Olam, which I’ll butcher in a short sentence. The universe was shattered, and a piece of glass or divine light was embedded in each person, and through acts of community service the vessel is reassembled. That is, in the Kabbalistic tradition, when the messiah will come, or when peace on earth will come. You bring it together, through community and through acts of service, through taking care and doing good deeds and doing mitzvahs. And I always thought that was such a beautiful analogy, because it’s action. You’re not just waiting around for the thing, but you are what brings that around, and that divinity within you.
Moral Hygiene and The Submissive Desire To Be Good
And you mentioned a few times something around moral hygiene, or moral OCD. And I do feel like there is that subtype of OCD that focuses around obsession with ethics: am I a good person, am I doing the right thing? Am I doing the most right thing, given these circumstances? And I wonder how it feels to be in a relationship where being good is the ultimate goal, but there’s also actual ways to achieve being good and getting feedback around that. I’m curious how our relationship has played with some of those things, because I do think it’s something that’s come up.
Duckling:
Quite a bit, I agree. Maybe it’s the child, or the moral OCD in me, who really craves a black-and-white rule for what is good and what is bad. Follow the rule, and everything is good. Obviously, part of growing up is learning that the world isn’t quite that easy or simple, and especially that relationships are not quite that easy or simple.
I will say, I really appreciate that we can have conversations about our dynamic, even when we have conflict, in ways that feel really honest and clear, and absent any sense of playing games, or just dancing around, pretending, or etiquette. We can get right to the heart of the matter. You can tell me what you think, and I trust you, and I will receive it. And as part of my role as a submissive, I’m not going to hide anything from you. That direct communication and conversation does feel like we’re able to navigate some of those gray areas. It’s helped me and taught me how to try to navigate these gray areas in other areas of my life, and in other relationships.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
That makes sense. Something that’s interesting about training within a D/s context is that you should see it impacting other aspects of your life, giving you more ease to move through the world. A marker of a healthy relationship is that the ways you relate with each other help you move through the world with more ease IMHO. I’m curious, with what we’re talking about now of training and service, after five years, you know my preferences, my rhythms, my standards. You know quite a bit about me. What does that accumulated knowledge feel like to carry? Is it a weight, a pleasure, something else? What is it like to move through the world knowing these things, moving as an extension of me, as an agent of mine?
Duckling:
It feels like both a weight and a pleasure. A pleasurable weight. It feels weighty in a good way. Because we are remote, long distance, we don’t often play with physical restraints, but it does feel like a kind of collar, in a good way. I can feel its weight around me. I have very positive feelings about carrying that weight, and knowing that it’s part of what binds me to you.
The idea that I’ve been personalized to you feels very good. It’s something that marks me as yours, and it feels very real, because it’s knowledge of you, a real person who I can directly help and serve even from afar. It touches upon this notion of being able to do good and to serve and to please others. With you, I have a very direct way of pleasing you, and anything that I learn about you in order to help please you better is an asset to me. It’s just something that feels good, because it makes me better at being good.
Female Led Relationship vs. Findom: Where They Overlap
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
We’ve talked about the training, and I’m curious. We talked last time about the role findom played in our dynamic, and while there are elements of financial domination present, it’s not like what you would typically think of when you think of findom. It’s so deeply embedded into the structure of our D/s dynamic that it feels like an extension of a female-led relationship, or FLR. So I’m curious, do you think we have a female-led relationship? What does that phrase mean to you, if anything? And how does it encompass some of the dynamics at play here?
Duckling:
It’s funny, I didn’t let myself use that label for what we have until very recently, when you named it and used it for me. That’s another way you’ve helped me broaden my conceptions of what this can be. Looking back, FLR is something I always craved and wanted. I read about them. I saw them in Tumblr porn and imagined being in one.
Many of the FLR reference points were in the context of a monogamous couple living together, sharing a household. That’s what a lot of the writing, or porn, touching upon this dynamic portrays. So for me, just being able to accept that what we have is cut from the same cloth feels really good to me. It’s something I’ve always wanted, but felt was not accessible to me.
I am able to experience it, and to tell myself this is real. I am in a relationship with Mommy, who is a dominant woman. She tells me just what she wants and uses me in the ways that please her. That is a FLR. Just saying that fills me with joy. I had assumed I had closed that door in my life, but now not only is it open, but I’ve already walked through it.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Yes, I love that. I feel like a lot of people that are interested in female-led relationships might not have had the language to describe what they’re looking for, and then get into relationships where they are trying to eroticize aspects of the relationship that might look like FLR, even though the partner’s not aware or into it. And I’m curious if that resonates for you, and what is it like to have it be concretized and a part of the dynamic, and not, “Oh, when my vanilla partner asks me to run an errand, I’m secretly aroused,” or something like that.
It’s something I’ve noticed, that when you don’t find the language for it, you try to put it onto a relationship, or find aspects where it’s present there. And I think that’s very different than intentionally pursuing it.
Duckling:
You’ve hit the nail on the head again. That not only resonates, but I feel seen—and attacked! It’s definitely true in my case. It started with a relationship, then I saw what I wanted to see. I wanted to play up the femdom part, but in ways that don’t work, obviously, if your partner doesn’t want to play that role. So I got these piecemeal interactions that I was able to eroticize, and it ended up being very frustrating, because it reinforced that I do want FLR. But also, I don’t have it, and I’m not getting it, in that relationship. So in hindsight, starting with the femdom part would have been the better play. And it feels good now.
It took me a while to go from these femdom interactions we were having to seeing it as a relationship, of the same kind that you would call an FLR. Because it happened, from my point of view, very gradually. At first we were just chatting on your fan site, and then, looking back, I was pulled steadily deeper and deeper into your life, until now it’s laughable to think that we’re not in a relationship. But I honestly couldn’t say when it happened. And here you can already see my black-and-white thinking. Why does it need to be labeled? What’s the exact moment when it became a relationship? That moment doesn’t exist.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Because that’s what happens in most relationships. You’re dating and getting to know someone, and then you’re together, and then you maybe put a label on it a little after that. And because of how I operate on my fan site, really trying to get to know people, and my deep interest in high-protocol training, people are a little nervous.
I tell this anecdote all the time, of someone just being like, “Excuse me, ma’am, I’m just trying to jerk off.” “Oh, okay, here’s the clip. Don’t tell me about your early kink roots. It’s all good.” But because of my approach, people assume I expect deep commitment upfront, and I’m like, this is the process of getting to know someone within a D/s context! I don’t know you in the beginning! I don’t know if I want to invest in training you! We’re both learning about each other, but it is through the lens of the D/s dynamic.
So it’s interesting that you say that, because to me it makes perfect sense that that would be how it happens. We’re both feeling each other out, tasks and direction feel good, we go deeper, we go deeper, and then it’s this fluidity into each other’s life. But it’s not right off the bat. I’m not expecting you, the first day you message me, to be at my beck and call, answering me within X amount of minutes. It’s gradual.
Why Clarity and Structure Matter in a FLR
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I’m curious too, in an FLR, what does it feel like to know what to do to make me happy? I’ve heard people say that it’s relieving to know that there’s a clear path to please me, and to be able to do it. But what does it feel like knowing what to do with yourself, knowing what your place is? I mean having a place, knowing your role in a specific situation.
I joke that I know what I want and I know how to get it, but I think how to get it is just articulating what your desire is and sharing it with the right people. So few people, especially women, have been socialized to articulate what they want, let alone know what they want. You don’t feel like you deserve the things you want, or feel comfortable asking for them. So much of our desires and ourselves are opaque to us. And it’s something that I’m very good at, asking for what and knowing what I want.
I did an interview with my mom where she was like, yeah, as a kid, you never had a problem asking for what you wanted. And I remember her asking me why. I was like, why wouldn’t you just say no to me? It was a very neurodivergent moment. Where I was like, why don’t you have boundaries? Can’t you just say no? Why wouldn’t I tell you that I want this pair of shoes? I don’t care that they’re $300. Say yes or no. Anyway, I’m curious what it’s like to have that in a relationship, for you.
Duckling:
It’s very clarifying. Some of it might be, again, that bit of OCD in me, where I really want that black-and-white clarity. To some degree, as adults, we learn that we have to make guesses, make inferences, and try to navigate doubt and uncertainty. But I like the fact that with you, there’s less of that bullshit.
I can just ask you what you want, and you’ll tell me, and if I can do it, I’m going to do it. It makes it very simple, very clean. It’s a relief. And it goes back to the previous discussion. It’s a clarity of purpose that is reassuring. I’m trying to find the right language here. I was going to say it’s like a hug? Warm and nice? But also…?
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
…like bondage.
Duckling:
Yeah.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
It’s a constraint that you’re working within that gives you security. And to go back to my dog training analogies, my dog loves to know what to do. When I put on his service dog vest, his tail goes into this low wag, and he is in a perfect heel, making perfect eye contact with me, waiting to know what to do. He’s very eager and excited, and gets so much fulfillment out of doing it.
Not what I thought a dog would want or need, to be honest! When I got a dog, I was like, oh, you just love him and then he will be good. I think there is something to knowing what your role is that sincerely decreases anxiety for many people, and many animals as well.
Duckling:
For sure. That’s what I was trying to articulate. Just the way my brain is wired, I do have anxiety about what I can do differently. And with you, there’s more clarity, and therefore less anxiety. That’s something I find really grounding.
Handling Conflict and Discipline in a D/s Dynamic or FLR
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
And what does it feel like to disappoint me, now that we’ve talked about what it feels like to make me happy?
Duckling:
I’ll be honest and say that every time, there is still a little fear and anxiety. By virtue of the path I’ve led through my life, there’s a bit of, I can see now, somewhat irrational existential angst every time there is a non-trivial conflict, or even disappointment. It’s each time I feel I should have known better. She gave me everything I needed to know, to do better, and I didn’t do it. One thing I appreciate, looking back now, it all snaps into place and I see the training that you’ve been doing with me over the years. I can frame things more as corrections and opportunities to do better.
It’s like this metaphor of me being a machine learning model being trained. When there’s an error, you update the weights and make the error less likely in the future. And having that corrective, not pressure but impetus or force, also feels stabilizing, because the disappointment that I created is real. But as long as I can focus on how to do better next time, it serves some purpose. And even my desire to do better next time, that itself reaffirms, at least, my commitment to our relationship and to our dynamic.
It makes my shortcoming a reason to invest further, as opposed to a reason to be afraid. I very often get into spirals of, oh, things aren’t working, what does it all mean, all of that. But having a clear path to moving forward is very stabilizing.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I think it adds a nice structure, because you’re going to disappoint me. It’s a part of a relationship. And I’m going to communicate when it happens. The other thing is, I know what makes me happy. I know what doesn’t, too. So while I’ll let you know that you disappointed me, and I have exacting standards, you’re not going to have to guess about if I’m happy or disappointed. I’m not passive-aggressive. I’m just aggressive. There will be clarity in what I’m feeling, for sure.
Duckling:
I do want to say that you found a very good blend of accountability, which feels good, and also understanding of my limitations and boundaries. I wish I had so many more hours in the day to devote to you, but I give you what I can. And I appreciate that you are understanding of what I have to give. If anything, the training is more about how to make the most of what I have to offer to you.
Why Kink-Friendly Therapy Matters in Long-Term BDSM Relationships
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I feel like that moves really well into the next cluster of questions that I have, about the totality of the dynamic. You are an individual who does have social ties and relationships, and I’m not looking to fuck up any of those. One thing that I do with submissives who I’m really invested in training, who I have very deep and ongoing relationships with, is I really encourage them to see a kink-friendly therapist. That’s especially important to me when people don’t have kink community or friends that they’re talking to about this relationship.
It feels like a safety buffer for me as well, so that the submissive I’m training has someone who’s in their corner and can help them advocate for themselves if there’s something they need to, or someone who is like, “Hey, look, maybe that’s not working for you, or why is she doing that? Have you been able to communicate about XYZ?” It makes me feel safer.
Could you talk a little about seeing a kink-friendly therapist, and what that has been like? To have someone to talk to about our dynamic, and how that’s played a role as well?
Duckling:
Therapy is good. Everyone should have a therapist. I began seeing my therapist, looking back, around the same time as I began seeing you, one year into the pandemic. It has been very stabilizing, because, and I’m not sure I’ve told you this before, but for a long time I kept having this fear: what will I do if my therapist tells me to stop seeing you, because it’s “bad for me” or whatever?
But honestly, across two therapists now, that’s never happened. If anything, the more I tell them about our relationship, they see and affirm that it seems to be good for me. So it’s been good not to have to ditch a therapist because they don’t see eye to eye with what I can feel has been such a positive experience in my life. Of course, they do give me a more objective sense of what’s going on, and help me talk through my boundaries.
And going back to our previous conversation, for sure, when I first began talking to you, I had narrower boundaries than I have now. I appreciate that you’ve never pushed me to go past them, but have always been there for me, so that as I became more comfortable, as I could see that it has been good for me, talking it through in therapy, I became more and more comfortable opening up a bit. And it came to a point where now we do have what is inarguably a relationship that I value and treasure.
Long Distance FLR: Advice for Virtual Power Exchange
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I love that. Okay, last question before we move into a rapid fire, where I’m going to make you answer right off the cuff.
Duckling:
Oh, no.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
What do you feel like people who are curious about long-term virtual FLR need to understand that they might not? Or about FLR in general?
I do feel like our relationship takes place over the virtual, but it’s so embedded. It’s embodied for me. And I hear the ways you talk about it being embodied for you. Sure, I’m sure we would have fun and maybe some different experiences if we were in person, physically together, but it doesn’t feel like something is lacking to me.
Duckling:
The virtual part of it was very good for allowing it to grow at its own pace. I was very careful starting out, by doing things à la carte at first, via your fan site. It made it possible to dip my toes in, and then slowly walk deeper and deeper into the proverbial sea of submission. Starting with that actual contact with you, and playing with it, and taking it step by step.
I didn’t fully appreciate how valuable that was, and how real, and how much better than my preconceived notions of my fantasy FLR of living with a keyholder. Now I appreciate the reality of our connection, even from the very beginning. It was a good small dose that I could steadily increase over time.
Rapid Fire: Quick Answers on Submission, Findom & FLR
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Love it. Okay, are you ready for rapid fire? What do I know about you that almost no one else does?
Duckling:
That I secretly just want to be a good girl. I’m a good girl at heart.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Perfect. Who’s the best dominatrix in the world?
Duckling:
Mistress Blunt, of course.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
How has serving me impacted other relationships of yours?
Duckling:
I’ve definitely learned to be more empathetic, focusing on communication, and especially on being able to voice my needs, as opposed to pushing them down and silencing them.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Where do you see yourself in your submission in five years?
Duckling:
My ideal would be living in your basement, chained up as a gimp.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Amazing. What would you say to someone who thinks that FLR can’t be real or intimate because money is exchanged?
Duckling:
Once you try it, once you experience it, you see that money is what makes it more real.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
You sound just like me! What does my satisfaction mean to you?
Duckling:
It’s a measure of whether I’m doing a good enough job. I can certainly always do better, but my goal is to make Mommy happy.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
What has serving me made you better at?
Duckling:
Taking more space in the world. Still a work in progress.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
What has serving me made you worse at?
Duckling:
Worse at? Having time for other hobbies.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
What is a kink you feel like we haven’t explored that you would like to explore more?
Duckling:
Oof. We’ve explored a lot. I do want to go into harder hypno.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Harder hypno. Hot. Good answer. I planted that answer there. What is your favorite thing that we’ve done together?
Duckling:
I still think about our first virtual playdate, when, after playing, you tucked me in virtually, remotely. It felt like I was on a cloud. It felt so good. The fact that you were able to give me some aftercare over Zoom… to me, it’s proof that it can all be real despite us being on different coasts.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Of course. That was so sweet. You looked so cozy. You looked totally floating.
Duckling:
Yes.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Okay, what’s your favorite thing that I’ve ever said to you?
Duckling:
Just, “good girl.” You calling me good girl now instead of good boy. Every time, I have a little blush inside, and it feels good.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
I love that. Okay, is there anything you’ve never shared with me about this dynamic that you want to say here?
Duckling:
I don’t know what I’ve said or not said, but, Mommy, it’s just the privilege of a lifetime to belong to you.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
The virgin of a lifetime?
Duckling:
It is the privilege of a lifetime to belong to you. And then to be yours.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
[Laughter] Thank you. That makes so much more sense. I would take either, though.
Duckling:
Oh, yes, Mommy.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
My good girl virgin. Never to be touched.
Duckling:
I was thinking again about how in year two you shared with me your birthday fantasy about the surgical amphitheater on the beach and the virgin sacrifice. That still lives in my head.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
It’s a good fantasy. I have some good fantasies. There’s plenty more where that came from.
Duckling:
Yes, Mommy.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Thank you so much for another lovely chat, my dear Duckling.
Duckling:
Thank you, Mommy.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Take care. I love you.
Duckling:
Love you, too.
Mistress Danielle Blunt:
Bye, sweetie.
