With almost 10 years experience in the BDSM community, and over five years of offering professional BDSM sessions in NYC, I am a woman who knows what she likes and one who knows exactly how to get it. I have the privilege of being very selective about who I choose to see; this means if your interests don’t align with mine, I will not be seeing you. This means if you aren’t respectful or intentional about your contact with me, you won’t be seeing me. Here is my breakdown of what I look for in potential clients/students/submissives and what my ideal session/client/submissive looks like.

My ideal session begins before you even contact me. It begins when you see my ad, stumble upon my twitter and get lost in the trail of information I have scattered across the web, all leading you directly into mine. I want you to do your research, to know why you have chosen me. I am selective about who I see and if you are unable to tell me what about ME resonated with you, it is likely that I will choose not to see you. I see only individuals with whom I share common ground. I want to hear your intrigue and curiosity to explore. I want to feel your desire to make my pleasure your ultimate goal. I adore playing with individuals who identify as a masochist, little, bottom or submissive. I enjoy playing with individuals who are eager to be trained to my standards. I do not particularly enjoy playing with bratty bottoms. My ideal client is interested in developing a lasting, committed and regular relationship, though this is not always necessary or called for.

You will follow my protocol of how to book a session, respecting my requirement for 24 hours notice. (Noting I prefer 3 days to 1 week notice). You communicate with me in full sentences. You have thought about what you’d like to get out of your experience with me. You do not send me copy and pasted inquiries (these do not get responses). You are respectful of my boundaries, my desires and my interests and are not stuck to an idea of a fantasy or role play that doesn’t allow for breathing room and the exploration of true D/s dynamics. I enjoy someone who is eager to be trained. I enjoy playing with individuals who are curious or have already started on a path of of personal self exploration and growth. I enjoy playing with both individuals who know how to articulate what they want and those who are interested in exploring and examining their sexualities.

You send me a deposit as instructed without hesitation. All of the ways that you communicate with me provide me with information as to how you will be as a submissive. I realize sending money online can be scary, but it denotes respect of my time and there are plenty of ways to anonymously send a deposit. Your access to me shouldn’t be easy. My time is a rare and valuable resource that requires respect, my time needs to be convinced to be secured.

You confirm your session with me as per your instructions. You show up on time, freshly showered and unadorned with any scents (unscented deodorant is fine). I want to be able to smell your fear and adorn you with scents and oils of my choosing if I desire. You render your tribute to me how I direct, in a white envelope placed tenderly on my entrance table with gratitude. Perhaps you have brought me a gift as well, thoughtfully selected as per my likings.

I will ask you if there is anything I need to know about your body and your mind. You will answer me. You will be asked a lot of questions and you will give me the information I desire so that I can toy with your body and your mind. I will tell you to remove your clothing. I will tell you to kneel. We have already begun.