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Forced Self Care

For a masochist, learning to care for oneself can be challenging. Discriminating between healthy, beneficial behaviors and harmful ones can be difficult when joy can be derived from pain. If pain is perceived as a reward, masochists may have an easier time imprinting self-destructive habits outside of consensual and intentional BDSM practices. In some instances masochistic habits can be a form of self soothing and self regulation. 
The process of learning to offer your body as a vessel for service for Mistress, requires that your body is exquisitely and divinely taken care of. That you are aware of your body, of your desires, so you can offer it all. Learning to distinguish between pain that leads to growth, and pain that leads to harm enables an individual to move through life with greater ease as well as the ability to bring your self-awareness as an offering to your Mistress.

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High Protocol D/s

As a classically trained dominatrix, there is nothing that I enjoy more than high protocol D/s (Dominance/submission) training. Training a submissive up to my standards creates the building blocks to develop a beautiful and mutually beneficial relationship. A relationship where you are able to serve me to my standards. A relationship where you prioritize my pleasure. A relationship where your body becomes a vehicle for service.

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2018 Holiday Wishlist

For those who asked, here is my holiday wishlist, though to be honest, my life (and closet) are pretty full. And, as always, cash is king. If you’d like to get me something sweet for the holidays this year, I’d adore you stuffing my stocking with cold hard cash. Cash for me to invest, for me to go on vacation with, for me to spend on bodywork, for me to continue decorating my apartment for me to spoil family and friends. Nothing makes me sleep as sweetly as sleeping on top of a mattress on a pile of cash…

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Manifesting: Dream Sessions and Dream Clients.

I know, darlings. Perhaps you’re new to this. Perhaps you still think that this relationship is about what you want. But this is about power exchange. This is not about your ego, this is about learning to serve another. I am uninterested in your fantasy. Of course, revealing them to me is encouraged, as it gives me an understanding of your psyche and of how to mold you into the perfect supplicant for service. I know what I want, I know how to articulate my needs, and that means that there are plenty of opportunities for you to please me.

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Session Feedback.

There is a question on my intake form that asks, “When was the last time you cried?” While all of the answers that I receive are fascinating and revealing, the one that stood out to me the most was a from a genderqueer person who answered the last time they cried was when they were looking for a dominatrix and they were all geared towards submissive men. Since then I’ve taken greater effort to make it clear that I adore playing with folks across the gender spectrum. Recently, I received this session feedback from a sweet non-binary femme which I am sharing below with permission:

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Love Notes

As long as I have been sexually active, I have been aroused by the notion of lovers and play partners putting into words what they find so tantalizing about spending time under my spell. Whether it be through love notes, musical tributes, thank you letters, letters of recommendation or dedications in books, I love to hear how you make concrete the ways that I have affected you. Here are some choice words that have been written about me by some of the lovely folks I allow to serve me.

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Professional Domination, Personal Subs and Fulfilling Kinky Relationships.

I get a lot of requests from individuals looking to serve me as a personal submissive. This is not something that I offer to individuals whom I do not know. Serving me in a more personal capacity requires proving your devotion and your dedication. Personal service is a privilege that is earned, and one that is sustained through regular and devoted service, sessions and tribute.

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My Ideal Session.

With almost 10 years experience in the BDSM community, and over five years of offering professional BDSM sessions in NYC, I am a woman who knows what she likes and one who knows exactly how to get it. I have the privilege of being very selective about who I choose to see; this means if your interests don’t align with mine, I will not be seeing you. This means if you aren’t respectful or intentional about your contact with me, you won’t be seeing me. Here is my breakdown of what I look for in potential clients/students/slaves and what my ideal session/client/slave looks like.

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